Low Self-Esteem & Self-Identity Therapy

For adults who feel disconnected, “not enough,” or unsure of who they really are.

Do you feel like you don’t really know who you are anymore?

Maybe you:

  • Second-guess yourself constantly

  • Feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough”

  • Shape-shift depending on who you’re with

  • Struggle to trust your own thoughts, feelings, or decisions

  • Feel disconnected from your body, needs, or inner voice

Low self-esteem and struggles with self-identity often don’t come from nowhere.
They’re usually learned responses to environments where you had to adapt, perform, stay quiet, or stay safe.

Therapy isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping you reconnect with who you were before the world told you who to be.

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What is low self-esteem and identity confusion?

What is low self-esteem and identity confusion?

Low self-esteem isn’t just “low confidence.”
It often shows up as:

  • Chronic self-criticism

  • Shame or guilt for having needs

  • Difficulty setting boundaries

  • Fear of being judged, rejected, or misunderstood

  • Feeling undeserving of rest, love, or success

Identity struggles can include:

  • Feeling lost or empty

  • Not knowing what you want or who you are

  • Feeling disconnected from your values

  • Questioning your sense of self after trauma, loss, burnout, or major life changes

These experiences are especially common for highly sensitive, neurodivergent, or emotionally attuned individuals - and for those who grew up in environments where their feelings weren’t fully seen or supported.

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How Therapy Can Help

In therapy, we work gently and collaboratively to help you:

  • Understand where your self-doubt and inner critic came from

  • Build a kinder, more compassionate relationship with yourself

  • Reconnect with your values, needs, and authentic identity

  • Develop a sense of internal safety and self-trust

  • Learn to set boundaries without guilt or fear

  • Feel more grounded, embodied, and emotionally regulated

This work isn’t about becoming a “new” version of yourself.
It’s about unlearning what never belonged to you in the first place.

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At Hopeful Horizons Holistic Psychotherapy, I take an integrative, trauma-informed approach that recognizes the mind, body, and nervous system are deeply connected.

Depending on your needs, therapy may include:

  • Somatic (body-based) practices to support nervous system regulation

  • Parts work to explore inner critics, protectors, and younger parts

  • Emotion-focused and mindfulness-based techniques

  • Self-compassion and identity-affirming practices

  • Gentle exploration of attachment, trauma, and relational patterns

We move at your pace.
There is no pressure to perform, explain everything perfectly, or “get it right.”

My Approach to Self-esteem & Identity Work

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WHAT SESSIONS LOOK LIKE?

Sessions with me are collaborative, compassionate, and customized to you - no rigid checklists, no pressure to show up with the “right” thing to say. Whether you’re in the middle of a crisis or just need to sit with something tender that you can’t quite name, we’ll meet it together.

I offer:

  • 50-minute sessions for deeper processing and exploration

  • 30-minute sessions for check-ins, resourcing, or when time is limited

  • Virtual across Ontario

  • $160 per session (sliding scales available)

You don’t have to have it all figured out before you show up. We’ll set intentions together and work at a pace that honours your nervous system, your needs, and your story.

Sometimes you’ll laugh. Sometimes you’ll cry. Sometimes we’ll sit in silence for a few breaths to let something settle. It’s all welcome here.

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You don’t have to feel this way forever

If you’ve spent most of your life questioning yourself, it can be hard to imagine feeling grounded, confident, or at home in your own skin.

But healing is possible.

With support, you can learn to:

  • Trust yourself again

  • Feel more secure in who you are

  • Relate to yourself with curiosity instead of criticism

  • Build a life that feels aligned — not performative

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Who I Work With

I support adults who are:

  • Struggling with low self-esteem or self-worth

  • Experiencing identity confusion or loss of self

  • Highly sensitive, intuitive, or neurodivergent

  • Navigating life transitions, grief, or relational challenges

  • Wanting deeper self-understanding and emotional safety

Sessions are offered virtually across Ontario.

Ready to take the next step?

You deserve support that honors your complexity, sensitivity, and lived experience.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • That’s more common than you think. Sometimes therapy didn’t work because it wasn’t the right approach, the right timing, or the right connection. I focus on creating a space that’s warm, flexible, and tailored to you - not one-size-fits-all. If we work together, we’ll check in regularly to make sure the work is feeling aligned and supportive. You deserve to feel safe, seen, and empowered in this process.

  • Not at all. Therapy isn’t only for crisis or trauma. It’s for anyone who wants to understand themselves better, cope with life’s ups and downs, or simply feel lighter and more grounded. Wanting support is human - and brave.

  • You’re not alone in that. Some sessions start with silence or uncertainty - and that’s okay. You don’t need to perform or prepare. Therapy is a space where you get to show up exactly as you are. We’ll follow what feels present, even if that means slowing down, noticing what’s in your body, or simply taking a few deep breaths together. There’s no “wrong way” to do this.

  • Therapy can bring up hard feelings - that’s part of the growth. But discomfort doesn’t mean danger. We move at a pace that feels safe for you, and you’ll have support every step of the way. Often, leaning into discomfort gently is where real shifts happen.

  • You don’t need clarity before starting therapy - therapy is often how clarity develops. Many people come in feeling disconnected from themselves or unsure how to put their experience into words. Together, we gently explore your thoughts, emotions, and patterns at a pace that feels safe, helping you reconnect with your values, needs, and sense of self over time.

  • Absolutely. I am committed to providing a safe, inclusive, and affirming space for individuals of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

  • The duration of therapy varies for each individual. Some clients find a few sessions helpful, while others engage in longer-term work. We'll regularly assess your progress and adjust as needed.

  • Yes, I offer a limited number of a variety of sliding scale spots. We can discuss your financial needs during our consultation to find a rate that works for both of us.

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